WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR LOVE TURNS SOUR

I have heard that much water cannot quench the fire of love; but we hear of cases of love turned sour among the singles as well as the married everyday. And that leaves us in a quandary as to how true that statement is. If you are among those who now taste the bitter pill of heart break, I have news for you.

Break up in any relationship is not usually easy to bear. Its something that could shatter your world into pieces. But then that is subject to you, if you want your life to remain shattered. If you do not want it that way you can quickly mend your way out of the pain that follows broken relationship. Whenever love turned sour, it leaves you with a kind of bitterness in your heart. It is like your world has come to an end and life seems to hold no more meaning for you. Consequently you recoil into your shell of sorrow, mourning your lost love. And you may sometimes lose your mind trying to do so.

Friend, I have something to tell you: your life is too precious to be sacrificed on the altar of the love that could not work yesterday. Its gone! Face the stark reality. You cannot do anything about your past but then there is something you can do today to make sure your future is still secure. Do not let the aborted relationship of yesterday hold your tomorrow hostage.

Look at things this way; if your ex-lover has any relevant part to play in your future he could have stayed. God might just be delivering you from the hazard the relationship may cause you in the future. This is what to do when your love turns sour. Face up to the heartbreak now and get over it.

That your relationship failed does not mean it's the end of life for you. Do not build a wall of defense around you because of your past experience. It is not worth it. Some people closed up after been jilted. That is not the best thing to do. It would stop you from something that could be flourishing in the future.

Do not change your philosophy to accommodate your tragedy, that all men are wicked or that all women are daughters of evil. You were only unfortunate to meet the wrong person who happens to break your heart. There are so many great men and women out there that you have not met yet. So why close your life to them because of one wrong relationship. One bad egg must not be used as judgment against others.

You still have a great life ahead of you because what lies ahead is greater than what lies behind. There is glory you have never known ahead of you than the story that lies behind you. The world is too loaded with wonderful people, so break out of your cocoon of bitterness, and give life another chance. Who knows, you will thank God that things happened the way they did. There is hope still. People come and they go but life must continues. Agreed that you wasted your time and life building the relationship. Yes, it is not easy. However, loses are inevitable. While shrugging your shoulder may not be the easiest thing to when your love turns sours, you just have to let go for your heart sake and let the process of healing begin. Healing cannot begin until you divest yourself of the weight of sorrow burdening your heart.

Don't let the aborted relationship of yesterday hold your future in hostage. If your ex has any relevant part to play in your future he could have probably not jilted you. So why stick to an excess luggage that threatens to spoil the bliss waiting for you in the future. When your love turns sour, don't brood on the bitter taste for too long, put yourself together and keep moving on.

THE COMPLEXITY OF RELATIONSHIP

Sometimes ago, I used to wonder what life is all about. Why are we created? For whom are we created? And what are we doing here anyway with all the numerous problems all around us? So many questions that need answers, but then one thing I discovered is that we are all created for relationship. From the plant to the animal, even the elements are not left out.

There is nothing in life that existed only for itself. It exist to give and to take from others and that’s what relationship is about. The plants need man to survive as much as man needs the plant for oxygen to survive. Everything in creation works in synergy and that’s why the earth is still standing. This is what made me believe so much in relationship. No one can succeed alone. It has never happened. Even God who created life did not work alone.

So, you see without relationship the world would never have been a better place to live in. All the time we hear of bilateral relationship among nations, why? We all are dependent being. There's something you have that I don't have and there's what I have that you don't have. That's the way it is.

Even though we talk about a nation having independence, is that really true? The truth is no nation is absolutely self sufficient. I have heard people made statements like this, "I'm a self made man." Oh no, you are not a self made man. Let me put it this way; you are dependently made man. There were inputs from so many quarters that got you to where you are today.

We are made by relationships but the complexity of it all is that we are sometimes marred by it too. I bet you have seen some people that you envied their relationship yesterday because you thought they had it all going well for them but then boom, it crashed and what you see now leaves you wondering: what happen? What went wrong? The complexity of this is that most of the time you can't even explain what happened even though the people involved tried to give reasons for the demise of a once budding relationship. Sometimes the excuses leaves you numb because to you, it is not excuse enough! Well, there you are that's the complexity of relationships.

You go into a relationship, whether it’s a friendly or love relationship hoping you'll be in it forever. Afterward your hopes were dashed. How many friends have you broken up with? There are some you never broke up with them but the initial enthusiasm is no longer there, you are just dragging along now. What happened? Change. You met new people, probably or you have a change in your values and focus. Whatever it is, change is the only constant thing in life. That is what, to my own opinion, makes for complexity in relationships. Today things are moving well and the very next day you are singing a different tune.