How To Avoid Abuse In Your Relationship

A wise man once said, "If you don't know the value of a thing abuse is inevitable." And I say if you don't know your value in any relationship you find yourself you will be cheaply used, abused and dumped.

People had entered into a relationship not knowing what to expect neither do they know what to make out of it. And so they go into it blindly and shortly they began to have problems and begin to wonder why. Great relationship do not just happen, it is worked. Some people go into a relationship with the mentality of let’s see what this affair holds for me. No! It's supposed to be let's see what I can make out of this affair. Remember the adage that says, as you make your bed, so you will lie on it. The 'beautifulness' of your relationship is your non-transferable responsibility. When you go into a relationship without the concept that you are there to work it out, then you will suffer an abuse in that relationship and you will wonder why others were having it smooth and you are having it rough. Soon you may find yourself changing relationships thinking you were in the wrong one. But is that the solution?

You ought to sit down and make your calculations. You must find out what will work for you in the relationship you are building and major on it. You don't put a major emphasis on what is not relevant and play a minor note when you are supposed to play a major. Sometimes we are so carried away by our heart that we think we know longer need our head. While we bask in the euphoria of our emotions, you should know it takes more than that to have a beautiful relationship than that. For instance, you need to understand your partner through: what makes him/her happy. What would you do to get him/her stick to you for life? This comes by observation, by means of using your minds to think. Though you may think it is not feasible but it can be done.

It's not everything your partner gets to tell you about himself/herself. We study to find out what he/she never told us. And do you know that when you find out something that is of utmost importance to your partner on your own, it would increase your value in his/her sight? It would also suggest that you care enough, which is why you went the extra mile for him/her. Every extra mile you go would attract extra bliss.

This is one of the things that prevent abuse in relationship: You must work at making yourself worthy. Whenever your worth is not known in your relationship watch it, it would certainly get rough. But when your worthiness is determined come hell or high water you will still be there.