THE COMPLEXITY OF RELATIONSHIP

Sometimes ago, I used to wonder what life is all about. Why are we created? For whom are we created? And what are we doing here anyway with all the numerous problems all around us? So many questions that need answers, but then one thing I discovered is that we are all created for relationship. From the plant to the animal, even the elements are not left out.

There is nothing in life that existed only for itself. It exist to give and to take from others and that’s what relationship is about. The plants need man to survive as much as man needs the plant for oxygen to survive. Everything in creation works in synergy and that’s why the earth is still standing. This is what made me believe so much in relationship. No one can succeed alone. It has never happened. Even God who created life did not work alone.

So, you see without relationship the world would never have been a better place to live in. All the time we hear of bilateral relationship among nations, why? We all are dependent being. There's something you have that I don't have and there's what I have that you don't have. That's the way it is.

Even though we talk about a nation having independence, is that really true? The truth is no nation is absolutely self sufficient. I have heard people made statements like this, "I'm a self made man." Oh no, you are not a self made man. Let me put it this way; you are dependently made man. There were inputs from so many quarters that got you to where you are today.

We are made by relationships but the complexity of it all is that we are sometimes marred by it too. I bet you have seen some people that you envied their relationship yesterday because you thought they had it all going well for them but then boom, it crashed and what you see now leaves you wondering: what happen? What went wrong? The complexity of this is that most of the time you can't even explain what happened even though the people involved tried to give reasons for the demise of a once budding relationship. Sometimes the excuses leaves you numb because to you, it is not excuse enough! Well, there you are that's the complexity of relationships.

You go into a relationship, whether it’s a friendly or love relationship hoping you'll be in it forever. Afterward your hopes were dashed. How many friends have you broken up with? There are some you never broke up with them but the initial enthusiasm is no longer there, you are just dragging along now. What happened? Change. You met new people, probably or you have a change in your values and focus. Whatever it is, change is the only constant thing in life. That is what, to my own opinion, makes for complexity in relationships. Today things are moving well and the very next day you are singing a different tune.